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Too Old to Learn
Posted on: March 19, 2010
When I saw my student, I resented with their youngness and their energy. I was little late to realize that the best time to learn is when we are young and full of energy. Worst than that, even the society believe that the best time to learn is when we are young. As an example, just try to visit a music course in your town than observe who join the course. Yes, mostly they are kids! A woman of my age, will come to the course to drop and then to fetch their children. If I insisted to join the course, probably when I asked for an application form, the course officer would ask “for your son, mam?” The question that made me speechless. Then, if I determined to join the course whatever the price was, the other common question that I had to faced –because I was not realized that I was too old to learn– was “do you want to join the course? what for?”
Expectation
Posted on: March 19, 2010
Expectation is something inside us that can drive our emotion. Let me give some example using my own experience. I have ever been angry with my student just because I have high expectation on her. She was a sweet and smart student. She was clever, that was why she was able to catch every lesson quickly. That was also a reason why I expect her more than my other students. One day, she was absent. Frankly speaking, I missed her. Next lesson, she was absent again. Actually, I was disappointed with her, why she was absent again. Frankly speaking, I did not really care when my other student was missing from class. However, I was disappointed with her because I thought that she was different. She was diligent student that I have ever known. Months passing by, I started to realized, actually I did not have any good reason to be angry, but just because I believe she should be better than any other student, I disappointed with her, even she just did small mistake.
The story was different, when I faced e a lazy and naughty student. He was a usual boy that liked to sit at the last row in class. Frequently, I found him give no attention to the class discussion. He looked at me with empty eyes. One day I remind him to concentrate and ask him to move to the front row. One miracle happened. He changed his attitude. He tried to concentrate to the lesson. Another miracle happened. He got a better mark in every quiz. I was so happy with him. I expected him nothing, than a great progress made me really happy. His achievement was beyond my expectation.
You see our expectation have impact on our emotion. Just imagine, if we believe that our brother will and can help us. As an example, we want him to fetch us from the airport. Then he refuses us. We will be disappointed. However, when we ask him and expect him nothing. Then, he calls us and informs us that he will not be available to fetch us. We will say it is ok, I know that you are busy and thank you for your attention. I think we will not be disappointed because we have no expectation to be fetched.
Should we have no expectation? Buddhism taught his follower to have no desire. Desire was the one that made man happy and sad. Thus, people should kill their desire to reach happiness. I don’t think as extreme as that, but I really hope I can control my expectation so I will not be easily disappointed with someone.
The job I love
Posted on: October 5, 2007
Eight years ago, when I was a master student, my friend had ever told me. Choose a job that you loved. When he said this, I thought that it was true, because we spend almost one third of our days just to do our job.
Today, I understand the statement better than before. I believe that it is true, not because I think it is true. I realized, that it is really true, because of my experience tell me.
Here are all the jobs during nine years of my adventure as a worker,
- Research assistant
- Teacher
- Researcher
- Translator
- Accounting System Analyzer
- Education Administrator
- Secretary
- Accounting staff
Two month ago, after I had resigned from my last job, I meet my friend, and he introduces me one kind of freelance job, go blog. I started to learn to blog. What it is. How do blog. I read more and more about blog. I love it. I spend many hours in front of computer just to blog. It is fun.
Today, I am very busy. The whole day I help my friend to cut textile. My friend receives order to make 400 shirts. I just helped him. Then, afternoon, I discuss some business with my other friend. Thus, I arrive at home at 09.30 PM. I feel tired. Still, I choose to open my computer and start to blog, before I went to bed.
One Idea at a Time 